There is a lot of concern about safety when it comes to Internet dating. How does the company handle this issue?

Barrett Stone – When you charge a premium for a service, like we do, it screens out a lot of people who shouldn’t be there. We are selective in who we will enroll. The person has to qualify physically, emotionally, mentally and financially. This company is well aware of the fraud issues that have plagued on line dating over the years. That’s why our model is based around communication, interaction and good old-fashioned personal service.

Jason Breakey – We do our absolute best to verify all the information members put on their data sheets. Now, could someone with a hidden agenda slip through the cracks – of course they could. Internet dating sites are ideal places for dishonest people to pull scams. Our company has built-in systems and protocols in place that help identify any suspicious behavior. Member feedback is also vital in helping us keep our service a safe haven for singles to meet. We are a very “hands-on” company. The safety of our clients has been, and always will be, a top priority for us.

Why are more and more singles turning to the Internet in hopes of finding “the one” for them?

Breakey – There’s a very big disconnect between males and females today, especially for older people. Where does a single 35 or 40-year old go nowadays to meet people their own age? You’re not going to have success in a bar environment, it just won’t happen. People are especially tired of the games people play when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.

You say you screen people to see if they are right for your dating service. Are you sure you won’t just take anyone off the street who is willing to pay cash on the spot?

Stone – Here is what you have to understand. Premiere Singles doesn’t franchise its concept to different cities around the country. We open up branches, or divisions of the company, like Omaha Singles, Raleigh Singles, Tulsa Singles etc., so that we can maintain total control over how we market ourselves. Each city has a presence on the Internet, and has its own domain name so that it retains a local feel to it. Now, if we franchised our concept like the rest of the dating industry does, we’d take your money in a heartbeat and move on. Most dating services fail because their business is engineered for people to come in and pay a lot of money, and in return, their customers receive less service for them.

Breakey – The heart isn’t something you play games with. Having it broken, time and time again, is what got these people turned upside down in the first place. Over the years, through first hand experience talking with all sorts of individuals, you come to understand the pain and frustration people go through hoping one day the right person walks into their life. Like Barrett touched on earlier, there’s a reason we are very selective when it comes to adding new members. We just won’t take anyone’s money if we don’t believe, in all honesty, that we can increase their odds of truly meeting someone they’ll be happy and compatible with.

Tell me what you feel the difference is between what you offer, and what other dating services advertise?

Breakey – Here is a dirty little secret my years in the business has taught me. The less a dating service has to deal with you the better off it is for them. For instance, some services will have you come into their office and choose someone you’d like to get to know better. Well, if that person happens to get busy, they won’t call the dating service. A lot of dating sites are set up for you to get totally frustrated with the process and quit. The major power players in the industry today are tied into an old franchise business model where you get the money first, worry about the fallout later. That’s why they always have the angriest clientele.

Stone – Our work doesn’t stop after a sales associate signs you to our service. We have member relations personnel in each office that will help you with your essays, set up your photo sessions, monitor your progress, suggest meeting places for dates, suggest other members you might be interested in. If a member hasn’t logged onto the website to check their e-mail in seven days, we call to find out if anything is wrong; is there anything we can do to help facilitate a meeting for them. If one of our members hasn’t answered an introduction, we call them to find out why. If they completed an introduction, we call them to find out if they went through with the date. Jason summed up our company the best the other day when he said our service is almost like being introduced to another person through a friend.

A lot of dating sites are long on promise, short on delivery. What can I expect from you?

Stone – We offer people a platform where they can change whatever habits they had in the past and get a fresh start. I can’t emphasize this enough when I say we are here to help you improve your social life, not take your money and run. For that reason alone, our sales personnel thoroughly explain our company to clients. When you become a member, we want you to feel totally comfortable with the decision you made. 

Breakey – I would rather have an individual’s expectations checked at the door before they ever give us a dime of their money. I never ever want anyone to feel they’ve been misled into joining our dating service. When you take that first step to walk through our door, you are putting your hopes and dreams into our hands. That is a huge responsibility we don’t take lightly.

 Jason Breakey is the President of Premier Singles and Barrett Stone is the CEO. SaltLakeSingles.org is part of the PremierSingles.com network.

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Who can carry the message to Garcia?

In the story made famous by Dan Kennedy, becoming the go-to guy or surrounding yourself with reliable people becomes invaluable asset.

There are two choices when faced with a situation in life. One is about yourself; are you the type of person who always gets the message to Garcia, who will not take no for an answer, who will react decisively to a treat, deal decisively with situations? Are you a reliable performer and not wimp out to excuses.

The other choice is, what type of people do you allow inside your world? What about the people you rely on, work with and trust? Dan Kennedy gives this advice: “when someone returns with excuses and an undelivered message, don't give him another one to deliver. Just put a bullet between his eyes and try another messenger.”

– Vince Lombardi, football coach

"It’s easy to have faith in yourself and discipline when you’re a winner, when you’re No. 1. What you’ve got to have is faith and discipline when you’re not yet a winner." -

Whining is a call to feel sorry for yourself. Little boys do it. Men shouldn't.

No one likes to hear others whine and women especially don't want to hear grown men whine. It's a big turn  off, an unattractive downer.

Whining shows no responsibility for you actions. If it's a trait that graps hold of you at times,you have to become completely intolerant  of that mode of expression.

Sever contact with anyone who on a continual basis whines. Don't associate with them. Find other to hang with. This stuff rubs off and you don't want to get infected. If you suffer of it, cure yourself. Pull the switch. Shut it off.

It's all over the media, in music, in print — you get saturated with this  dribble. But shut it off and listen to things that lend themselves to learning new things, developing new skills and other areas of successful endeavor.

It's important in building your attractive character to stay away from the whine, not the wine.

"Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos - the trees, the clouds, everything."
–Thich Nhat Hanh

Attraction is all or nothing. Either you know how to create it or you're dead. We pull all the stops so you learn it well.

 There are always two ways to look at everything.

 "My God!" says my wife, "Who would think a person could go on
 celebrating that long?"

 First off, here's an excellent dating  tip-off page: How To Find Beautiful Women

I can't remember when I first started feeling the fear when I approached a women to get their numbers. It continued while in high school, in the military service, even after college. But I do remember overcoming that fear when approaching a woman and get numbers, and dates, etc.

You like blood pumping, hot attractive?

If you want to get your blood pumping, there's NOTHING like being able to walk up to any attractive woman, start a quick conversation, and walk away with her telephone number.

If you'd like to learn my best secrets on how to approach women, then take a minute and read this:

I have an admit I had a deep level FEAR of approaching a beautiful women. It's similar to STAGE FRIGHT or speaking in front of a large audience. And when I managed to get up enough nerve to make a feeble attempt to start a conversation, the tension in my voice betrayed that real nervous guy inside.

I was getting nowhere. I once got a salesman's job thinking it would help overcome my jittery approach when trying to meet women. Even read self-help books, took psychology classes … hoping.

Well, if you're reading along so far you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about. TYPICALLY most all guys feel this. You get to think you are emotionally retarded.

But you've seen and heard of other guys who don't have this fear. And down inside you know, if they can do it, then SO CAN YOU. 

By finally discovering how do get on base and MORE from personal experience and from learning from master players!

I was able the take their best parts and mold it to my style. Not only was I getting unbelievable results finding women really are EASY to approach and getting numbers is no sweat.

It's something I want to share with you. If you'd like to learn some good secrets on how tell if you're scoring points with a woman then take a minute and read this: How To Attract Beautiful Women

  Whenever you go to a dating site your are asked questions about yourself and the qualities you are looking for in your potential mate. You’ll start by answering questions, checking boxes to indicate a wide range of preferences and habit. Preferences such as smoking and drinking habits, ethnicity, hobbies, hair color, TV viewing habits, religion, and so on..

All the dating sites have a space provided where you can describe yourself and the person you are looking for. All the sites seem to have profile tips and dating safety tips.

Some sites make you browse profiles while other sites let you take tests so that they can tell you about people who share your interests and match your concerns.

Subscription packages involve various lengths of time and price. What you gain by paying is the ability to communicate fully with other subscribers. A single month at Yahoo Personals is about $25. At eHarmony it’s $60. For longer time commitments the rate goes down. If you cancel before the end of your paid period, most sites don’t give a refund

EHarmony, Yahoo Personals,  American Singles and Match have the largest customer base

Visit each dating site before you make a commitment. You’ll want to read the privacy policy and terms of service and check out what they offer. Next create a separate e-mail account for your dating email so you can protect your identity and manage your messages so that you don’t compromise your personal in box.

Then give your credit card number to the dating service you finally choose. All the sites have ice breaker shorthand designed to keep communication open without the need to pen a long note to open conversation.

You can tweak them as you go. If you want to narrow your choices to those with college degrees, Phd’s, musicians you can. If you want to broaden your search you have those options too.

The only rub is if you looking for a Phd and you requested a happy go lucky, athlete you may get matched with a glum Phd. will let you search independently but will also match you for compatibility with other members who have taken their personality and compatibility test.

Yahoo Personals has a three day trial period. will reject you if they deem you unmatchable. About 16 percent of potential users are rejected for lying, under 21 and a variety of other reasons. Once you’re in you have access to those you are compatible with in the testing process.

EHarmony has a seven-day trial period.

I’ve been a fan and have read Consumer Reports for years. They are unbiased, do not accept advertising and operate in a fashion that is unbiased. You can buy your way into the many a web and business rating service but not the Consumer Reports.

Consumer Reports likes eHarmony, Match.com and Yahoo Personals.

They suggest to try eHarmony if you favor matches "closer to handpicked"

If you’re there for the basics, Yahoo Personals and Match.com are the next best bet eHarmony and Yahoo Personals have a compatibility test which pair you up with likes and dislikes issures.

Consumer Reports suggest that you set up a private email account with Hotmail, Google or some independent email company so you can monitor your email. Otherwise you get everything tangled up in you personal Inbox.